A Stud/Fem's Role?

I have heard quite a few people's opinions on this subject. I agree with most that it is hypocritical to stick a certain "duty" on the fem or stud of the relationship. Most of the time the stud is expected to have the supportive, dominant role in the relationship, while the fem is assumed to be the emotional, needful one. I think that treating your relationship in that way is taking away from the beauty of what being in a gay relationship is about. It's about two females being committed to each other. Automatically assuming that since a stud "dresses like a dude", that she has to assume the male role in the relationship completely goes against what the couple as lesbians stand for. Regardless of the way a female looks, or dresses, she is still a female. I personally am dominant and I don't express my emotions like people would assume I would, and I am a "fem". Naturally I carry that "role" in most of my relationships, whether I am dating a fem or a stud. My point: stud, or fem...you are both females. Fem's, if you're looking for a dominant, supportive girlfriend...don't automatically assume that a stud is what you are looking for. I have learned that it isn't about studs or fems. It's about females. So look for the qualities you want in a girl, regardless of their label (we'll talk about those later), not for the stereotypical stud or fem.

- Em